A Story of a Recovering People Pleaser: More on Expectations | Codependency and Accepting an Imperfect Life
February 3, 2018
In this episode I dive in deeper on the conversation I had with Heather in episode 4. I share my own personal struggles as a recovering People Pleaser, the expectations I’ve put on myself, which lead to a downward spiraling case of depression, and living with this idea that I had to be perfect in every moment.
As you could imagine, living like this for a lifetime would lead one to crash and burn, and that is what I did in 2015 at the age of 31. And at weakest point in this journey, instead of caving in and getting on antidepressants, I found a counselor to work with.
This counselor helped me open my eyes to one of the biggest problems I had, and that was that I had unrealistic expectations of my husband, my parents, my step-children, my mother-in-law, my patients, and most especially, myself.
My journey of mending myself well and becoming a recovering people pleaser, began when I started acknowledging these ideas that I didn’t have to be perfect, that my husband wasn’t responsible for my happiness, and that I had no control over anyone other than myself.
This episode is one where I get comfortable being uncomfortable. One where I really start to open up and give you a glimpse into what I’ve been through, and strategies I’ve used to overcome some of my biggest pain points in life. I share all of this because I know too many of us think we are all alone on our journey. That we have no one to talk to, but that’s not true.
I hope me opening up and sharing my journey as a recovering people pleaser helps you see that part of your healing will begin when you can do the same. And more importantly, when you begin to also let go of ideas that are not serving you, you’ll be able to experience a level of freedom WITHIN that will be refreshing.
It worked for me! I’d love to connect. If you think you too can benefit from a process of shedding old ideas, getting comfortable being uncomfortable, and learning to embrace the journey to mending yourself well, I invite you to join me in a 12 week group experience where we will do just this. Our first meeting is February 11th (moved up from January 28th) and I am looking for a few more busy & driven women who are ready to step into a life that they LOVE.
If you are ready, apply HERE!
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